Turn frustration into a game
Kubla and his friends are watching a movie on Netflix. The connection is a little ropey. It keeps starting and stopping. The natives grow restless. The movie stops again. “Kubla, stop using your mind powers!”
Is your goal to just not make things worse? Or to make things better?
It finally stopped raining. The sun warmed the playground. Someone brought popsicles. The kids finish their popsicles. They stir the muddy puddles with the naked sticks, making whirlpools. Their curiosity wanes. They throw the sticks
Turn frustration at other people into a game
Kubla was waiting in line for the swing. The other kid just wouldn’t get off. He asks politely if he could have a turn. The other kid ignores him. I try to convince my boy
Change the rules of the game
Like most babies, Kubla loved to drop things and make me pick them up. Like most parents, I quickly got tired of being a baby’s marionette. One day I decide to change the game. Kubla
Why watch your child play when you could play together?
When Kubla and I go to the park to play, we both go to the park to play. I don’t just tag along to keep him safe. I play with him and his friends (tag
Get them moving and acting on their fears, instead of feeling controlled by them
As a toddler Kubla was very attached to Liping. He couldn’t bear to be away from her. Kubla and I are playing with blocks. I hear the dreaded question,“Where’s Mom?” “She’s doing some errands. She’ll
Nip your little couch potato in the bud
Kubla had been watching TV for too long. “Kubla, will you play with me?” “I want to watch TV.” “Don’t you want to play with toys?” “No, I just want to watch something.” His show
Meet kids at their own level
My tween niece enters our house with her family. She doesn’t look up. She doesn’t say hello. She’s a slave to her phone. I pull out my phone and text her. Welcome 2 R home
Find a way to include the little ones in big kid games
When Kubla learned to crawl, he would want to join the games of his older cousins. But it’s hard to play soccer with a baby on the field. We needed to find a new game.
Stop reading the instructions and start kidding around
When Kubla was a toddler, he showed no interest whatsoever in stacking blocks. Knock down blocks—absolutely. Make rockets or dinosaurs with his blocks spread flat on the ground—sure. But his creations rarely get more than