Maybe his butt fell asleep?

Turn frustration at other people into a game


Kubla was waiting in line for the swing. The other kid just wouldn’t get off. He asks politely if he could have a turn. The other kid ignores him. I try to convince my boy

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I am not a baby’s marionette

Change the rules of the game


Like most babies, Kubla loved to drop things and make me pick them up. Like most parents, I quickly got tired of being a baby’s marionette. One day I decide to change the game. Kubla

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There’s no ‘right’ way to play

Stop reading the instructions and start kidding around


When Kubla was a toddler, he showed no interest whatsoever in stacking blocks. Knock down blocks—absolutely. Make rockets or dinosaurs with his blocks spread flat on the ground—sure. But his creations rarely get more than

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Let it go

Discretion is the better part of parenting

Let it go

Time for dinner.  Kubla is doing his best to ignore me. “Kubla, I said it’s time for dinner.” Silence.  Another call to the table.  He’s in a combative mood. “I want to watch TV.” Normally

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Why am I so bored?!

What a fascinating question

Why am I so bored

Touring Kubla’s school, I see a poster in the teacher’s lounge, hidden from the students: Curiosity is the cure for boredom. There is no cure for curiosity. I commit it to memory.  It’s my go-to

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Just don’t say Bobbledeegoo

Take the power out of curse words


Kubla comes back from a playdate.  His friend has a potty mouth. Later that day, Kubla plays with his toy cars.  He pushes one off the cliff of our couch.  His hand guides its fall

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How is his compliance?

What is the balance between control and freedom in your family?

How is his compliance

We check out a couple nearby preschools for Kubla.  The playgrounds and classrooms are all pretty similar.  The teachers are all equally friendly.  Our friends say good things about both of them. It’s time for

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Slave Dolphins and Free Sharks

What’s it worth to give up your freedom?

Slave Dolphins and Free Sharks

We watch the dolphin show at the aquarium.  It’s fun, but a little sad to see such intelligent creatures stuck in a tank they can fully explore in under 30 seconds. “Hey Kubla, are those

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