Small Children

How is his compliance?

What is the balance between control and freedom in your family?

How is his compliance

We check out a couple nearby preschools for Kubla.  The playgrounds and classrooms are all pretty similar.  The teachers are all equally friendly.  Our friends say good things about both of them. It’s time for

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Slave Dolphins and Free Sharks

What’s it worth to give up your freedom?

Slave Dolphins and Free Sharks

We watch the dolphin show at the aquarium.  It’s fun, but a little sad to see such intelligent creatures stuck in a tank they can fully explore in under 30 seconds. “Hey Kubla, are those

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Is driving hard?

A lot of things are hard, until you learn how

Is driving hard

I drive Kubla’s friends home from their play date.  Their mom doesn’t have a driver’s license.  Just a learners permit. “Is driving hard?” they ask. “It’s easy when you know how.” “My mom is so stupid.” All

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Oh, you gave me a love punch

What does a kid really need when he’s acting out?

Oh you gave me a love punch

I see that kid in the park.  He starts towards me.  I know what comes next.  I protect myself as he tries to hit me.  It helps that I’m four times his size. He doesn’t

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My Play Date

The play date isn’t going well.  They fight over toys.  One doesn’t want to play the other’s game.  It’s time for a change of venue. When they were toddlers it was easy.  We chose parents

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Leader of no one

Sometimes we get more of what we want by letting others be the star

Leader of no one

Kubla wants to play soldier.  The girl he’s playing with wants to play hide and seek.  Neither can convince the other.  It looks like the play date might need to end early. I call Kubla

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The Whining Game

I’m always happy to talk things out.  We encourage Kubla to negotiate boundaries.  But whining—we do everything we can to stamp it out.  Including playing with him not getting what he wants. “I want a

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