If you aren’t falling, you aren’t trying hard enough
Kubla is learning to ice-skate. He hobbles back from the first class with bruised knees. I give him a little hug. “What happened? Did you have fun?” “Yeah, but I fell.” “How many times?” “Three.”
When you push away the people who love you most
We seem to be having a good time. Until we aren’t anymore. We’re halfway through the 3rd story book. The cuddling is over. He covers the words with his hands so I can’t read them.
Just adult enough
Kubla and I finish watching the movie, The Little Prince. We had recently read the book together, too. If you haven’t seen the movie, it’s a new story that takes place when the narrator is
What makes a leader?
The night before the Global Climate Strike, I show Kubla Greta Thunberg’s TED talk. I think it should be required viewing for all parents and school-age children. https://www.ted.com/talks/greta_thunberg_the_disarming_case_to_act_right_now_on_climate After the 11 minute video, silence. A
Act like you want to be invited back
Kubla invites a friend to our home after school. They have a great time. I don’t. His friend is disrespectful. He doesn’t listen. He’s loud. He makes a mess. His mom comes to pick him
No more nightmares—helping kids feel safe at night
Kubla used to have bad dreams a couple times a month. One night he dreamed he was all alone and couldn’t find me or Liping. The next night he was afraid to go to sleep.
Touch makes your family feel extra close
Our family invented our own special kiss. For bedtime. After a fight. Any time we want to feel extra close. Kubla and Liping both kiss my face at the same time. Then Kubla and I
Potty training in 5 months and 3 days
Kubla is 19 months old. Bubbles. Warm water. Rubber duckies. What could be better? Bath time with his beloved Mom. He poops all over the tub. Bath time is suddenly over. What happened? The next
A letter to Kubla’s Principal
I sent this letter to the principal of Kubla’s school: More often than not during pick-up, I see that Kubla hasn’t eaten most of his lunch. I ask him why and he says there isn’t
Have players of different abilities play by different rules
It’s time to introduce Kubla to some thinking games. Chess, checkers, Connect Four. I teach him the rules. We play a few games. I warn him what I’ll do next if he makes this move