What is the balance between control and freedom in your family?
We check out a couple nearby preschools for Kubla. The playgrounds and classrooms are all pretty similar. The teachers are all equally friendly. Our friends say good things about both of them. It’s time for
What’s it worth to give up your freedom?
We watch the dolphin show at the aquarium. It’s fun, but a little sad to see such intelligent creatures stuck in a tank they can fully explore in under 30 seconds. “Hey Kubla, are those
A lot of things are hard, until you learn how
I drive Kubla’s friends home from their play date. Their mom doesn’t have a driver’s license. Just a learners permit. “Is driving hard?” they ask. “It’s easy when you know how.” “My mom is so stupid.” All
In the face of evil, will you stand by or stand up?
Kubla had been training to be a hero for weeks. He was ready to unleash his powers on the playground. His friends, a brother and sister, are on the slide. Kubla joins their play. After
What does a kid really need when he’s acting out?
I see that kid in the park. He starts towards me. I know what comes next. I protect myself as he tries to hit me. It helps that I’m four times his size. He doesn’t
The play date isn’t going well. They fight over toys. One doesn’t want to play the other’s game. It’s time for a change of venue. When they were toddlers it was easy. We chose parents
Sometimes we get more of what we want by letting others be the star
Kubla wants to play soldier. The girl he’s playing with wants to play hide and seek. Neither can convince the other. It looks like the play date might need to end early. I call Kubla
Be careful what you promise
We’re at the beach. I’m reading a book. Kubla and his friends are running all over the shore, chasing and splashing and squirting. A few drops of water fall on my book. “Guys! Splash each
I’m always happy to talk things out. We encourage Kubla to negotiate boundaries. But whining—we do everything we can to stamp it out. Including playing with him not getting what he wants. “I want a
Help kids imitate you in a safe way
Kubla was 3. He wants to take my medicine, to be like his dad. I say no. I hide the bottle. He always seems moments away from an overdose. I take an old bottle of