What Kind of a Beautiful Day Is It

Every morning since Kubla was two, we open the window shade together as I ask “I wonder what kind of a beautiful day it is today?” Sometimes it’s a beautiful sunny day. Sometimes a beautiful

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You can’t tickle an adult!

Don’t respect dumb rules

You can't tickle an adult

In our family we try to avoid dumb rules. Drools, we call them. I love making up silly rules. Kubla loves breaking them. I tickle Kubla. He dissolves into giggles. He starts to tickle me

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The problem with screens

And the smaller the screen, the bigger the problem

The problem with screens

Kubla usually doesn’t have trouble turning off the TV. It’s a challenge to peel him away from YouTube videos. God help the poor soul who tries to take a smartphone out of his hands. With

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Play Video Games Together

Connect with a human, not with a screen

play video gae together

It was vacation. We were staying with Kubla’s cousins for the week. All the big kids wanted to do was play video games on the computer. It was the first time he had seen computer

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The Impulse Monster

Kubla and I love Japanese monster movies. Ultraman, Godzilla, and Mothra all have pride of place in his imagination. We’ve whiled away many an afternoon battling monsters—he’s always the hero, saving the bad guy role

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Try harder

Kids are more capable than they and the grown-ups around them realize

Try harder

When Kubla was two years old, he thought the words for ‘Open it’ were ‘Try harder’. He would hand me a jar to open. I would hand it back and say try harder. He would

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I like it your way better

Encourage their curiosity, even when they get it wrong

I like it your way better

I was straightening up my office supplies. Kubla puts down his toy and comes closer. “What’s that?” “A laser drum.” “A laser drum!?” His eyes pop out of his head. He starts to tear the

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Snack tokens

Making sweet tokens stick

Snack Tokens blog post

Our Sweet Token experiment was working wonderfully—for about 3 hours. “I want another cookie.” “Do you have a sweet token?” “No, I already used them both.” “So what’s the answer?” “But I want a cookie!”

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The saddest story ever told

See things from another perspective

The saddest story ever told

Octavia Octopus and her fishy friends escape the hungry shark. The End. I put down the book. “That’s the saddest story I’ve ever heard,” I say. “That poor, hungry shark.” ”But Octavia escaped. It’s a

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