Small Children

First Bully

How should you respond when someone is mean to you? (5th of a 9 part series)

First Bully--5 of 9

After preschool, Kubla’s nanny often took him to play with an older neighborhood boy. I start to hear stories about this boy, how he teases Kubla, calling him a toddler, trying to make him unhappy.

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Cape of courage

Security blankets come in many forms (4th of a 9 part series)

Cape of courage--4 of 9

Kubla didn’t want to go to preschool. He missed Liping too much. I wait for him to stop crying and calm down. I pretend to fish for something in my pocket. “I know it’s in

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Superhero Patrol

Keeping the neighborhood safe and nice for everyone (3rd of a 9 part series)

Superhero Patrol--3 of 9

After a week of superhero training, Kubla is ready to go on patrol. He puts on his costume—mask, cape, super-serious crime-fighting face, Batman onesie. We start walking around the block, on the lookout for evil.

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Superhero training, part 2

When the time comes, will you be ready? (2nd of a 9 part series)

Superhero training part 2--2 of 9

Kubla is ready to become a hero. He’s ready to begin his training. “Do the Avengers fight bad guys all day?” “No, the battles only last a few minutes.” “That’s right,” I say. “What do

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Superhero training

Fight evil, protect the innocent, and make things nice for everybody (1st of a 9 part series)

Superhero training--1 of 9

Three playdates in a row, Kubla bossed and bullied his friend. It wasn’t abating. He needed a positive outlet for his need to control. After the playdate I take him aside. “Kubla, who is the

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The problem with screens

And the smaller the screen, the bigger the problem

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Kubla usually doesn’t have trouble turning off the TV. It’s a challenge to peel him away from YouTube videos. God help the poor soul who tries to take a smartphone out of his hands. With

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Not learning to read

Children will learn only when they’re ready

Not learning to read

His last couple weeks in preschool, Kubla showed an avid interest in reading. He would spell out the letters on signs, license plates, anything. I declared this would be the summer he learned to read.

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Clear the plate of someone you love

End dinner with an act of love, not with a chore

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“Don’t forget to clear your plate.” Is that really how families want to end dinner? With a chore? That word, chore—makes me think of Cinderella not being able to go to the ball. What do

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