The play date isn’t going well. They fight over toys. One doesn’t want to play the other’s game. It’s time for a change of venue. When they were toddlers it was easy. We chose parents
Take responsibility for your actions
Crumbs are all over the floor. A sticky fingered boy starts to walk away. “Kubla, where do you think you are going? Did you look at the floor?!” He looks down, not entirely convinced there’s
Be careful what you promise
We’re at the beach. I’m reading a book. Kubla and his friends are running all over the shore, chasing and splashing and squirting. A few drops of water fall on my book. “Guys! Splash each
Help kids imitate you in a safe way
Kubla was 3. He wants to take my medicine, to be like his dad. I say no. I hide the bottle. He always seems moments away from an overdose. I take an old bottle of
Is it possible to do things together instead?
I like to lift weights at home. It saves me a trip to the gym. Three year old Kubla wants to help. I’m afraid he’s going to get crushed by a dumbbell. Liping tries to
Are you willing to do what it takes?
After weeks of trying, Kubla makes it across the monkey bars all by himself. He does it again. And again. And again. The next day he’s back on the monkey bars, gaining speed and confidence
A nice way to reconnect
The fight ends. We each go to our corners. Bruised feelings all around. A few minutes later we’re ready to reconnect. I invite Kubla to sit in my lap. We hug. “Who’s my favorite boy
Take the wind out of routine defiance
I encourage small children to say ‘no’ and be naughty. I find that when they get the “no’s” out of their system, they feel less of a need to act up later. And they’re more
Do you accept the challenge?
Kubla won’t brush his teeth. Again. We try to make it fun. We sing a brushing song. It works for a couple days, until it doesn’t. We try to threaten him—“Kubla, no stories until you
What are your powers?
Kubla loves superheroes. We like to make up our own, each with their own special powers and back story. Kubla likes being Rabbitman. He was bitten by a radioactive rabbit. He can jump really far