Small Children

I am not a baby’s marionette

Change the rules of the game

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Like most babies, Kubla loved to drop things and make me pick them up. Like most parents, I quickly got tired of being a baby’s marionette. One day I decide to change the game. Kubla

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We send our kids to be coached in soccer

But who coaches us to be better parents?

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Most of us receive training and coaching to be better in our careers. For sports and hobbies, too. But apart from reading the occasional book, or unsolicited advice from our own parents, who among us

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Let it go

Discretion is the better part of parenting

Let it go

Time for dinner.  Kubla is doing his best to ignore me. “Kubla, I said it’s time for dinner.” Silence.  Another call to the table.  He’s in a combative mood. “I want to watch TV.” Normally

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Just don’t say Bobbledeegoo

Take the power out of curse words

Bobbledeegoo

Kubla comes back from a playdate.  His friend has a potty mouth. Later that day, Kubla plays with his toy cars.  He pushes one off the cliff of our couch.  His hand guides its fall

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How is his compliance?

What is the balance between control and freedom in your family?

How is his compliance

We check out a couple nearby preschools for Kubla.  The playgrounds and classrooms are all pretty similar.  The teachers are all equally friendly.  Our friends say good things about both of them. It’s time for

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Slave Dolphins and Free Sharks

What’s it worth to give up your freedom?

Slave Dolphins and Free Sharks

We watch the dolphin show at the aquarium.  It’s fun, but a little sad to see such intelligent creatures stuck in a tank they can fully explore in under 30 seconds. “Hey Kubla, are those

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Is driving hard?

A lot of things are hard, until you learn how

Is driving hard

I drive Kubla’s friends home from their play date.  Their mom doesn’t have a driver’s license.  Just a learners permit. “Is driving hard?” they ask. “It’s easy when you know how.” “My mom is so

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Wiggleworms

Sometimes it takes some outside structure to help love grow

Wiggleworms

My dad visits once or twice a month.  He can’t talk about business or sports with a toddler, so he and Kubla don’t have much to talk about.  Kubla cries when my dad tries to

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20 candy bars a day

Stamp out little lies

20 candy bars a day

“Can we have candy?”  “I think you guys have had enough,” I say. The play date is going well.  Jumping on the trampoline.  Endless roleplaying.  A sweet treat. “I’m allowed to have more,” says our

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Oh, you gave me a love punch

What does a kid really need when he’s acting out?

Oh you gave me a love punch

I see that kid in the park.  He starts towards me.  I know what comes next.  I protect myself as he tries to hit me.  It helps that I’m four times his size. He doesn’t

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